Flirting and jealousy?

**chunkie munkie** · #1 (**permalink**) 02-04-2007, 04:28 PM

I have to admit, I'm one of the biggest flirts you'll ever meet in your life (granted if you've ever met me). I've been this way for as long as I know. The ppl I've dated hated it and tried to get me to stop. I've gotten statements like, "if you love me, you'd stop flirting," "it's rude and disrespectful," "I'm really jealous," and other things. It's just that I don't find flirting harmful in any way. Flirting, to me, doesn't mean that you don't love the person you're with... I allow the other person to flirt (& they do), so I don't see a problem. I guess, flirting and love aren't equivalent in my books.

Flirting, to me, is just mere fun; a game if you like. There really is nothing to be jealous of b/c I wouldn't date more than half the ppl I flirt with. I just feel that I should be allowed to be myself. It's not like I don't tell these ppl ahead of time what I'm all abt, and I do explain myself. I'm a flirtaholic.

So I guess I'm wondering if you guys (old, young, experienced, inexperienced) feel that flirting is a sin in a relationship.

Thanks.

**RiverSouth** · #2 (**permalink**) 03-04-2007, 04:29 AM

i'm with you on this lol. when i flirt is okay but if she flirts, then it is not okay with me haha.ha but flirt needs to be stop. control yourself, you have to think how your partner feels ehhh so yeah learn from it. anyhow i think flirting is a fun thing to do too...

**guardianx** · #3 (**permalink**) 03-04-2007, 04:54 AM

wait are you a boy/girl? Cuz it makes a world of difference!! Guys flirting around is viewed as baad and girls flirting around isn't necessarily viewed as bad..

**chunkie munkie** · #4 (**permalink**) 03-04-2007, 04:44 PM

I'm a girl with a male brain.
I view flirting as very safe and harmless for both guys and girls.

RiverSouth - relationships should be equal. If you flirt, she should be given the option. But I know what you are saying, the whole control part, but I can't help it. That's not who I am. I feel like I'm being restricted/restrained from being who I am. You know? And, yes, I understand that I should be more sensitive to my partners' feelings, but... that is soo annoying. Garr, I'm so selfish in this field.

Flirting is like.... an ego trip, if you will.

**chiseenah** · #5 (**permalink**) 06-04-2007, 05:40 AM

I don't think flirting is that bad if you're in a relationship, but I tend to do it unintentionally so ya.
As long as you don't fall for the person you're flirting with, it's all good. xD

**chunkie munkie** · #6 (**permalink**) 06-04-2007, 05:20 PM

It's a natural habit, right?
Maybe I'm just looking for support on behalf of my own behavior.
Someone said to me that I should really watch myself b/c I could be hurting the ppl I'm with. But if i have to do that, then it takes away from the fun. I just feel that... I'm upfront abt my flirting WAY before I'm in a relationship. I tell them, this is me. After that, I don't want to have to explain myself.

**Sword Goddess** · #7 (**permalink**) 12-04-2007, 06:47 AM

I guess some girls don't their boyfriends flirting with other girls when you're supposedly their boyfriend. What do you think the girl's parents/friends may think? If the guy isn't willing to, I would think it would be disrepectful..he should at least try to care about her feelings too..

**Dengero** · #8 (**permalink**) 12-04-2007, 11:57 AM

i wouldn't mind a bit of flirting as long as its not really full on.....makes it uncomfortable

**Renawave** · #9 (**permalink**) 12-04-2007, 09:06 PM

wells, let's think about this...

If your gf flirts at other guys, what do you feel? I'm pretty sure you'll get a little jealous. You have to control yourself and think how your partner feels. Wells, personally, I think flirt is not a bad thing, but if you have a gf or bf, you should stop the flirt. That's all i got to say.