Can someone give me advice?

**wlong99** · #1 (**permalink**) 03-04-2007, 03:44 PM

Well, at this moment I met this girl that I like and really want to ask her out and one of those guys that fear what might happen after I ask her and also I lack confidence in doing this too. For some reason I really just want to ask this girl out and forget about what might happen and I knew that she was single when we first met but just last week on her website, it said that she is in a relationship and then 2-3days after it disappeared and said nothing so now I dont want to be a fool and ask her out if she has a b/f. Should I just be straight forward and ask her if she has a b/f and if not would she go out with me or just wait it out?

**chunkie munkie** · #2 (**permalink**) 03-04-2007, 04:55 PM

That's so cute! (Sorry, I'm a crazy romantic)
Anyway....you can't worry about the consequences. You have to make a fool outta yourself once in awhile, and plus, there are many many women in this vast world.
Ok, so, you like this girl...if you are friends with her, this would be a bonus. You can just say..."hey, you know, i saw on your profile that you were dating... who's the lucky guy?" If you're not friends w/her... you'll have to be a bit more cleaver. Like... "hey, how was your wkend? Did you do anything fun... like, watch a movie?" If she is with the bf, she'd tell you... "OH, I hung out with so-&-so." You know? This is for part 1.

Asking a girl out takes a bit more time. I hate it when a guy I don't know or barely know asks me out off the bat. It's creepy to me unless the guy is really good looking. Girls like to "get to know you." If she says, I'm just looking for a friend, don't take it as a rejection. It's an initial rejection... but you haven't lost the battle. Don't go out to a movie, that stops conversation. Dinner makes it seem "official." You could ask them to go hang out to... play pool, bowling, something socially active. If she's cool, your in. If not... and you try another few more times... you're outta luck in the dating category.

**wlong99** · #3 (**permalink**) 03-04-2007, 07:23 PM

what u wrote makes sense to me. I only been friends with this girl since feb and I never really thought of liking her cause I wasnt really looking for a relationship but after eating lunch after class with her and just talking to her spark something in me haha... right now when I see her everything that made me have a hard day or stress out after seeing her, she makes me happy... I think I will give it like another week or so before I ask her to do something social because I know her schedule will be busy next week. I guess if I dont try, I would never know... Thank you

**chunkie munkie** · #4 (**permalink**) 03-04-2007, 07:35 PM

Definetely take it slow. It sounds like you guys don't really know each other well. Remember to pay attention to body language and facial expressions...but don't stare (that's gives off a "creepy" feeling). You want to be in a comfortable situation. Again, if you are comfortable, she'll be comfortable. Mmm... you want to get to know her better as a person. =) And if you feel real comfortable, casual flirting with neutral comments like... "hey, you look nice today." A good conversation started is best.

Hehe...can you tell i do this a lot?

**wlong99** · #5 (**permalink**) 03-04-2007, 08:21 PM

haha yea I can tell that you do this very often... this is like the 2nd girl that I really tried to ask out and the first one I really didnt do anything and the girl wanted to out with me haha and that turned out really bad cause we never got to know each other as friends... but you gave me some good advice thanks

**chunkie munkie** · #6 (**permalink**) 04-04-2007, 02:57 PM

Well, tell me how it goes... and if you have any other Qs... feel free to ask. =)

Good luck! And don't be nervous... be confident! If she doesn't like you for you... then she isn't worth it.

BTW, if you haven't watched the movie HITCH, you're missing out.
That is one of the greatest movies, and what they do in that movie - the lessons, they really work!

I recommend it!

**wlong99** · #7 (**permalink**) 06-04-2007, 11:51 AM

haha i watched Hitch, maybe I should watch it again because i didnt pick up anything haha

**raining_colors** · #8 (**permalink**) 06-04-2007, 08:51 PM

If you feel that way about her, and it's too strong to ignore, then you should confess, because it hurts to carry all that burden in your heart and not be able to express how you feel towards the person=/ I know how you feel, and it's your choice. I know that it takes a lot of courage to confess, but I believe it'll make you feel better. And once you do that, you shouldn't regret the consequences, cuz that'll just drive you mad. Even if she starts ignoring you, you should just move on and not think about the what ifs. lol, I'm not help, but good luck;]