The love trouble/complain thread!

[alex_fong_is_my_babi]

For anyone who's having troubles with her/his special someone. Come here to give advice, to receive advice to just to vent out all the frustrations of relationships, crushes, marriage, w/e you've got on your mind at the moment.

So my problem is....
I'm currently crushing pretty hard.... He's a senior who decided to graduate early halfway through second semester so he's been gone for about a month or so. I was dying the first week or so. So now I'm look like a hobo at school b/c since he's not there, what's the point anymore? I get to see him at prom, whoo hoo? I just kinda wanna go up to him and ask him if he wants to hang out sometime but we're not that familiar with each other, if even at all. Like, we know each other but we dont hang out nor do we have common friends which actually serves to be a bigger problem than it initially seemed. I've been in situations like this before but I've never actual believed anything could happen. This is the first time I've actually opened up my heart and gone after something I want while making myself horribly vulnerable in the process.

Well now since I've spilled my emotions, anyone else?

[maverick1031]

It's happened to me TWICE in my life... I feel I was so close to getting something and then WHAM! It's taken away from me. I had opportunities but I never took advantage of them and when I do decide to do something, its already too late.

The most recent one was where my good friend for a couple of years had her debut and I hand knit her a scarf (took me a fair amount of time to make.) And so at around Christmas it started getting cold and she tells me that she's started wearing it, so I thought, u know what... thats great! During Christmas, I went back home and we took a picture us with her wearing the scarf. At that moment, I wanted to make a move but I decided against it, all those factors like what if she doesn't like me that way or what if I do that and we lose our friendship what if this, what if that... all these unknowns stopped me before and its stopped me again. So then I left that night and went back to University (out of town) out in the east of the country (home is in the west, about a 4 hour flight) without telling her how I felt or anything. Then comes reading week, and during reading week, I went to London, England and had fun there, it was in England that I decided that when I get back, I am going to tell her. Great, until I talked to her one afternoon and it was then she revealed to me that she recent got a bf, it was about 2 days before I was set to come back. So now I have a tough decision to make on whether or not I should still tell her and have her second thinking her current relationship or just keep it and let her go. So far, I haven't been able to do either. Anyways, it was then I thought about staying in England for a little longer, look around a little more, which definitely would have been nice but didn't happen. So now, she'll probably never know about my true feelings and she hasn't worn the scarf ever since.

I look back at it afterwards thinking, was wearing the scarf supposed to be a hint to me that she liked me that way and I think it probably was too and I didn't take advantage of that to move in and now, I've lost it all. I regret not saying anything still to this day.

So Ladies and Gentlemen, if you like someone, PLEEEEEEEEASE act on it or you may never get another chance to again. I learned it the hard way, I hope u don't have to.

[Kwan-Yi]

well i agree with you maverick.. to me i have always went for it.. no matter how scared i was.. or how much chance i had in getting accepted by the girl or getting rejected.. i still went for it.. at least i know that the girl i told them about how i felt for them knows... it will get the girl thinking whether she likes me that way too & whether we have a chance together..

for example, with my current girlfriend, i asked her out even though i was scared. she rejected me because she thought it will never work out.. i asked her a second to be honest & she went away thinking about my answer.. the next time we met, we went to a park. i asked her to sit inbetween my legs & she did. i was like O_O then i thought about kissing her. i did as well. but i was scared of kissing her because it might scare her. i got so scared that in the process of going in to kiss i stopped for a split second.. but i manage to get the courage & kissed her. that was when i knew we were together & that was my answer.

so even though you might think of all the worse that could happen, think about the good things that could happen. =D