Really confused...

**kingmasher** · #1 (**permalink**) 23-06-2007, 07:53 PM

Well theres this girl that i told that i really liked, and well she didnt really give me a yes or no answer until a couple days later. She told me she also did BUT she said her life is complicated and couldnt really give me a 100% answer. She says she likes me but she needs time to deal with past relationship details. It seems like she wants to go out with me and do all that relationship stuff with me, but just not have the title of "bf and gh"......i dunno maybe im just really insecure.
What would you people do?

**veexd** · #2 (**permalink**) 25-06-2007, 12:45 AM

Sounds like she's being fair to you.. I mean, at least she's telling you that she wants to end the details of the past relationship, right? So the relationship is not "official".. maybe she lost confident from her past relationship. I think you should talk to her and ask her straight up.

**chubby1688** · #3 (**permalink**) 02-07-2007, 08:26 AM

I hope she is not using you as a rebound or a substitute. Sometimes a girl wanted to use another boy to get back at the ex or she just want the attention while she is depressed. Yeah, you should really get it straight before she hurt your feeling.

**LvChineseGrl** · #4 (**permalink**) 02-07-2007, 11:37 PM

oh well, if I am that girl, I probably do that too. I think she probably wants secret dating, that's what I felt before. I felt like that if I can't let anyone, why don't .....just do like secret dating.

**dailyearner** · #5 (**permalink**) 03-07-2007, 01:22 PM

do not give up
that is girl
you should be pacient
hehe

**kniteboi** · #6 (**permalink**) 04-07-2007, 06:07 AM

this often means she wants to be best friend with you and like you as a close friend but not a bf or gf and she do want to get into close relation but not with you

**JayJay** · #7 (**permalink**) 21-07-2007, 03:44 PM

its complicated.. there could be many reasons why she doesnt want it to be offcial.. like maybe a past relationship which was out in the open broke down cause it was open and people started interfering.

possibly, a past relationship had hurt her badly, and she has no confidence in relationships at the moment, and shes not ready to be commited until she knows that its genuine, so give her time and see how things work out.

maybe its a parent thing?

but if you really like this girl, stick it out, talk to her, and try and find out why she wants it to be quite secret, maybe shes insecure, but dont over push it, if she doesnt want to give you an answer then dont push for one, just accept it and try your best to make her happy, give her what she wants, and maybe sooner or later shell open out to you and you can have an open relationship, everything takes time.

**Anonymous** · #8 (**permalink**) 21-07-2007, 04:36 PM

for me.. i think she is still confused n not ready to get in a new relationship officially. but trust me.. since she said she likes u.. she will sure willing to be ur official gf in no time.. trust me.. jsut be patient. n of course treat her nice..=).. then this waiting period will definitely be short..

**Kwan-Yi** · #9 (**permalink**) 21-07-2007, 06:30 PM

awww

if the girl dont get with you then shes gonna regret it because i can tell that you are geniune because you wouldnt post here if you wasnt.

so give the girl some time but if it takes too long then let her go because i once told a girl that i liked her very much. she said that she liked me too but she kept me hanging for quite a while. it makes you depressed and start thinking should i really wait for this girl. the girl was in a similar situation as the girl you are telling us now. i wish you two the best.

if the girl tells you to not wait for her then dont because
1. she is telling you it will not work out.
2. it might mean that she dont like you the way you like her anymore.

so be careful. this is my advice. im not an expert but i have been hurt before. good luck.