Faithful

**neol** · #1 (**permalink**) 17-07-2007, 01:19 PM

What will you do if you found out after marriage that your wife/husband is unfaithful and had a past?

**maverick1031** · #2 (**permalink**) 17-07-2007, 01:49 PM

thats the past... but I'd still be cautious... just unnoticeably cautious...

**Sakura** · #3 (**permalink**) 18-07-2007, 05:28 AM

Probably be angry of him not telling me because for a relationship to work, there has to honesty even if what he tells me can be hurtful at least we can try to work it out instead of hiding it for years.

**aquamartian** · #4 (**permalink**) 18-07-2007, 05:31 AM

past is the past. don't ask, don;t tell. as long as you are happy in your current relationship, its all good.

**neol** · #5 (**permalink**) 18-07-2007, 11:58 AM

what if you come to know of it accidently or you find that she/he is trying desperately to get him/her back?

**cltw666** · #6 (**permalink**) 18-07-2007, 06:04 PM

The past is not important. I actually think its better not to tell the other half about it because it will not do any good but makes a small crack here and there.

If he/she is trying to get back then its not about the past. its about the relationship you two have now. I guess it depends on how deep do you feel for her. I would proply be frank and see who she choose.

**aquamartian** · #7 (**permalink**) 19-07-2007, 06:26 AM

absolutely. if she/he is looking elsewhere, then your relationship is not as strong as you think. sometimes though we get "good old times" syndrome. its like the grass is always greener elsewhere. let her choose. if you love her, set her free. you can;t and should not hold her back.

**Sakura** · #8 (**permalink**) 19-07-2007, 07:47 AM

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Originally Posted by neol

what if you come to know of it accidently or you find that she/he is trying desperately to get him/her back?

Then what was the point of getting married if he/she is trying to get his/her's ex back?

**shye** · #9 (**permalink**) 19-07-2007, 12:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sakura

Then what was the point of getting married if he/she is trying to get his/her's ex back?

I second that, a marriage isn't a game of getting together - they should be fully prepared to be committed otherwise it will not only hurt the couples but the children (if any). If one's not prepared to leave the past and vow - why did you even agree and say "I DO!" on your wedding day?

If you don't have faith or even trust your partner then a marriage would fail - the hardest part of a marriage is not just falling in love with someone once - but the real challenge is falling in love with the same person over and over again.

I'm talking too much now - Nooo!! Don't send a bomb to my house - I'm just ... an innocent soul

**langlui24** · #10 (**permalink**) 24-07-2007, 05:37 PM

its better to not know anything about the person's past..the most you know, the more disappointed you'll be. whatever the person did in his/her past has nothing to do with you. so just leave it