Guy or girl? Who do you think should make the first move? Why?

**kevstevefj** · #1 (**permalink**) 03-08-2007, 04:17 PM

I am a guy and it is often hard for me to make the first move, maybe I am just too shy.

This is what I got from an article:
Question: How do you know if an Asian guy likes you or if he is just too shy to make the first move?

Answer

I liked an Asian guy and I asked him out, because i got fed up of waiting for him to do it. When i did ask him out, he said he was planning to ask me but hadn't had the chance to because I always seemed to be in a rush whenever we bumped into each other. I think this shows that he was just too shy or not confident enough to make the first move.

Go on make the first move or you'll never know.

Asian guys are shy and probably cheat much less than white guys, thus you should straight up ask him if he likes you and wants to hang out or go for a more confident guy who may end up cheating on you since he's so confident with the ladies.

Answer

One of my best guy friends is Asian. He's Japanese/Korean. I have noticed that not just him but other Asian men do tend to be very shy about and around girls they are attracted to. And he has told me on many an occasion it takes women making the first move or taking the initiative before he will go on a date. I know for a fact that my friend would never ask a woman out unless he could tell from her she would say yes. And I agree with the above poster ...in Asian and Asian-American culture they are less likely to cheat on the woman they are committed to than most guys. But that is just from what he has told me and my experience around Asian men. I hope this stereotype doesn't offend anyone.

THIS is what some of them think. What do you think?

**shindong** · #2 (**permalink**) 03-08-2007, 05:44 PM

I think whoever is more comfortable or impatient should make the move lol. Not everyone is the same, and some people will obviously take forever. It takes a push from one of the sides in order to get things started.

If it were me, it'd take me a while to ask someone out. And if you really liked me that much, you're better off telling me because I'm not really going to take your hints; it'd be really awkward if I never found out since I don't pay attention to relationships. Who knows how your guy might act/react.

Girls usually tend to be more open anyway. It is easier for them to share their feelings and be honest. If you really like someone, don't wait too long for them to make the first move.

**rohit147** · #3 (**permalink**) 04-08-2007, 12:09 PM

i think guy should tell the girl about his feeling first, but i never experienced like this :p

**Anonymous** · #4 (**permalink**) 05-08-2007, 03:32 AM

it really depends...but some guys they like to boast in front of their frens how they like courting girls n flirt around.. but in fact.. they r the one who do not dare to make the first move

**Kenshin83** · #5 (**permalink**) 05-08-2007, 04:08 AM

Don't really matter really.....you like the person, go for it

**rohit147** · #6 (**permalink**) 05-08-2007, 11:55 AM

I think if you know you both like each other and such guy is bit shy you must need to make the initial move in order for you not to waste time together.

**kevstevefj** · #7 (**permalink**) 05-08-2007, 01:12 PM

As a guy, I think we are more afraid of rejection because you will never know how the other person feels. She might not feel the same way and after you have made a confession. Everything changes, especially the friendship and a great friendship will be nothing at the end of the day.

Than again, you will regret that you didn't tell her how you feel until its too late.

**shindong** · #8 (**permalink**) 05-08-2007, 05:19 PM

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Originally Posted by kevstevefj

As a guy, I think we are more afraid of rejection because you will never know how the other person feels. She might not feel the same way and after you have made a confession. Everything changes, especially the friendship and a great friendship will be nothing at the end of the day.

Than again, you will regret that you didn't tell her how you feel until its too late.

True. There are some girls who stop talking to you after you admit that you would like to be more than friends. They require quite alot of time to think, and then you just wish you'd kept your mouth shut because the relationship has changed.

Guys usually tend to be slow. If you want things done then you better do it yourself

This goes for girls and guys.