Scared to have a relationship? Why?

**lilmisslost** · #1 (**permalink**) 15-08-2007, 12:15 AM

Has anyone ever been scared to get in a relationship? Like you like him/her and he/she likes you back they ask you out and you reject them?

**evalala** · #2 (**permalink**) 21-08-2007, 07:32 AM

I know I was. We were friends, I didn't really like him back in that way then started finding him really annoying and unbearable later on. I found out from a friend about it then I started treating him like crap. I guess I was afraid to say no and I did want to say no. But now we just hate each other. He probably doesn't hate me but I do hate him. I feel so bad about it too.

**asdfghjkl** · #3 (**permalink**) 21-08-2007, 12:53 PM

Well you can't force urself to love the guy can u huh...

And I'm not too sure about myself...haven't had any sort of relationship really.

**ChocopieoMG** · #4 (**permalink**) 29-08-2007, 11:23 PM

hm lol this kinda happened to me.
he likes me and i kinda like him too but he asked me three times but i still said no. i never had a relationship with anyone so i guess i am afraid lol.
oh well...i'll just have to wait when the times comes neh? lol

**secretaccount** · #5 (**permalink**) 30-08-2007, 12:41 PM

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Originally Posted by evalala

I know I was. We were friends, I didn't really like him back in that way then started finding him really annoying and unbearable later on. I found out from a friend about it then I started treating him like crap. I guess I was afraid to say no and I did want to say no. But now we just hate each other. He probably doesn't hate me but I do hate him. I feel so bad about it too.

Did you find him annoying and unbearable after you found out or before? It can't be helped if you hate him now but if did treat him bad only because he liked you and you didn't feel the same way that is very harsh.

It's not that I'm scared to get into a relationship but I'm just iffy about it getting too serious or worst case scenario both of us get too caught up with each other and clingy. Already experienced that once and it might look like a pretty sight but it's not a good feeling.

There are a few girls whom I think others would love to go for but I refused.

The first girl me and her have been friends for years and we've practically gone through EVERYTHING together. I used to have a major crush on her for around 4 years but it never worked out it never bothered me though she knew but i didn't make it akward or anything she was my best friend... Now she starts to realize it all I guess and it hit her and wonder why she didn't go for me. Worse part of it all? She has a boyfriend. She will always be my number one but I just can't and will not go for her... maybe later on once we're all older and mature more and figured out what we're doing with our lives then I might consider it if the chance is still there which I highly doubt it will be but no matter what we're still the best of friends.

I'll make the second one short.

- She's a nice girl but it was wrong timing I met and dated my ex when she did like me and I also broke up with my ex when she told me she still liked me.

- We had a good friendship and she's a very emotional girl so lets say if we did date and broke up she would not be there to put up with me anymore. In other words I'd lose a good friend.

- She likes me but also likes another guy (her boyfriend as of now) and in the wrong fashion she went out with him even though she wants to be with me. Would have been an emotional roller coaster with her and plus if she could date someone else and like another at the same time that could've happened to me also coming from her.

- I don't mind the emotional factor but I can't always be her security blanket.

I won't date for a while though I'm trying to get my experience in the hospitality work field before I'm allowed to sign up and get my diploma in hospitality management then follow up and get my bachelors degree in it... Plus I'm also learning Japanese soon and there are many other things I want to do before I ever have to worry about a relationship again.

So work hard now and in due time play harder!

**Anonymous** · #6 (**permalink**) 10-09-2007, 04:43 PM

i think i faced this b4.. i was scared n i rejected the guy(he's my ex).. although i still like him after so many years.. but i know wat he told me or said r liars.. cause he is just a jerk..i was scared being hurt once again..so i jsut rejected him n did not pick up all his calls n replying texts n tat was the smartest decision i have ever made i think..

**wwhlee** · #7 (**permalink**) 13-09-2007, 09:02 AM

if you are scared to get in a relationship, but still want to try then go out together with a bunch of friends. if it works out, great, if not, nothing lost.

**lxsedan** · #8 (**permalink**) 14-09-2007, 01:41 AM

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Originally Posted by wwhlee

if you are scared to get in a relationship, but still want to try then go out together with a bunch of friends. if it works out, great, if not, nothing lost.

i'm in agreement with wwhlee here, if you are afraid to go out with them alone as you dont' know what may happen, you should get out there with a bunch of friends and spend some time with them and see how it goes. Once you get comfortable and you really do enjoy spending time with them then I don't think you'll have problems giving things a try sometimes. Its usually what catches us off guard and not expecting things that a good opportunity comes along.

**xvrwllms** · #9 (**permalink**) 16-09-2007, 07:15 AM

It is kinda scary to get into a relationship but if you don't ever try how do you know if you might be missing out on something really special. It's always easier said then done!